Energetic Life

What if you can control your thoughts? What if you can reap joy out of every moment? What if you can be still for long periods? There is a space of stillness. Gap silence between your thoughts. Buried under more than 50 thousand daily thoughts the average person has. It is a different way of thinking. Mindful. No longer attached to your thoughts, especially negative ones. An easy and quick read from  Declutter your mind  explore this subject. You will notice the ability to ask "Where will my next thought come from?" Some benefits: Reduce stress and anxiety Quiet Increased awareness A calmer state of body and mind A trained mind, under your control Higher quality relationships  Some tools: Mindful actions. The focus is on the journey, the joy is found in doing the activity not in finishing it. Success and achievement exist on a continuum. Reframe Negative - You have a bias for the negative due to evolutionary reasons. Strive to reframe. You can also accept it. Mindfulness ...

 What is anger? A destructive emotion spurs from your primitive limbic brain (Amygdala) which clouds your rational thinking. Addictive, it brings physical and emotional high (Adrenaline). Immediate but irrational reaction based on what you think. An indication that something is wrong. Anger begins and ends with yourself.  Buddha wanted to end suffering and said that anger is one of its causes. As if suffering is "Bad". To learn from him how to reduce suffering is a useful tool and it is well explained in the book  The cow in the parking lot .  The meaning of the word "Buddha" is awakened, and this is the method in short. Full presence and observation at the moment. Experience directly without allowing the intervention of previous beliefs and interpretations. What you observe is what you know, the rest is interpretation. Assumptions and beliefs affect how you view reality. Anger arises from unmet demand. Some types of demands: Important and reasonable Unimportant and...

 What are boundaries ? They are structures that support a healthy, productive life. They define you, show where you begin and end. Whats you and what's not you. They lead a sense of ownership. They may be seen or unseen. Necessary and helpful. Boundaries exist and affect you, whether or not you communicate them. Examples of boundaries: Skin Words - Yes/No Physical Distance Emotional Distance - Temporary boundary, not a permanent way of living Time - Way to regain ownership Personal truth Other people - You don't exist in a vacuum, boundaries define you in relation to others. Boundaries are not walls. You need to have gates to let the good in, and bad out. The idea of boundary has a religious sense in different aspects such as historical and theological. Although I am not many fans learning from this model since it can easily go downhill to dogmatism. But it's a very good model and explained well in the book  Boundaries . Examples whats within boundaries: Internal limits  ...

Can you actually thrive under pressure? Nope. The pressure is a nemesis. Diminishes your judgment and undermines your performance. Is an enemy to success. A villain in life. Pressure handicap what we value most, especially relationships. Performing Under Pressure  dives deep into the nature of pressure, and presents short and long term solutions.  The pressure is not stress. Pressure moments are stressful moments in which results or consequences matter. Something critical on the line. In a stressful situation, there are multiple ways to respond. wherein the pressure situation there is only one. Managing pressure lets your experience and skills do the talking. You actually have the natural tools to cope with it. Let's leverage them. Natural tools include senses, thoughts, physiological responses, body movements, and voice. Some short term solutions:  Befriend the moment - Think as a challenger or opportunity/fun. Multiple opportunities thought Shrink importance of the mome...

Have you ever felt busy but not productive? Engaged in a zillion project and feeling unsatisfied? Did you also know that Priority  is a singular word since 1400? Think of adding a sense of  Essentialism  to your life. The way out is the way of the essentialist. The idea is simple, concentrate your energies to the vital few areas that bring the most contribution to you. Essentialism is a way of thinking. A self-Discipline. Constantly pause to ask if you are investing your time and energies in the best possible ways for maximum contribution. 1) Explore and Evaluate: Is this activity or effort will make the highest possible contribution? Do you love it? Do you look great in it? 2) Eliminate: It demands an emotional discipline. You have a bias for the already owned. 3) Mindsets: You have a choice. Almost everything is noise. You can't have it all. Which problem do you want to solve? Only a few things really matter. Heighten your awareness to choos...